Full Moon in Libra: Healing the Helper Wound

Last week’s solar eclipse in Aries initiated the beginning of an important new life chapter. Things are accelerating in the cosmos as the energy of Aries season ignites enthusiasm, inspiration and a drive for forward momentum. There is a newfound awareness around who we are and how we are meant to express ourselves in the world, a deeper understanding of our truth and power. With four planets now in the late degrees of Pisces we are invited to go within, to acknowledge patterns needing to be changed and hold space for deep emotions asking to be seen and healed. The upcoming full moon in Libra illuminates what is out of balance in our relationships, partnerships and values. Libra helps us to perceive with greater objectivity where in our lives we are not fully owning our sovereignty, along with how we can better establish and communicate healthy boundaries.

On a personal level, this past week brought powerful breakthroughs and deep healing as I uncovered the root cause of the unhealthy relationship patterns that have shaped most of my adult life. These insights came through my first Family Constellation session: for those unfamiliar with this healing modality, it brings to light patterns and hidden dynamics in one’s family history, providing a powerful tool in healing intergenerational trauma. In the Family Constellation, we explored how as a highly sensitive child I adapted and found belonging in my environment by taking on the role of the helper. This was a conditioning passed down through my family lineage: the love that I received from my parents was not based upon who I was, but rather on what I did. I learned as a child that vulnerability was a weakness and that it was not safe to express my emotions. When my parents got upset, they would withdraw emotionally: my mother used to give me the silent treatment and my father would isolate himself, sinking into depression. As a result, I developed the unconscious belief that I had to be perfect, to keep everyone else happy and avoid conflict at all costs.

As an adult, continuing to embody the role of the helper created unhealthy and disempowering relationship dynamics. I attracted men who were emotionally unavailable and whom I continually felt compelled to help heal. I lacked clear boundaries in relationships, always prioritizing the needs of those aroud me before my own. I lost my sense of self, constantly basing my worth upon the validation of others. I avoided saying “no”, fearing that this would lead to rejection or being perceived as selfish. The deepest and most challenging karmic lessons came full circle when I became the helper for my elderly mother. Over the past few years, I have put my needs and life on hold to support the caregiver who never truly saw me.

Yet something very significant shifted over this past week during the Family Constellation session: I took my power back. I released the energetic burden from my mother that I have been carrying for my entire life, realizing that it had never been mine to bear. I reconnected to my inner child, giving her permission to express her vulnerability. I promised little Sarah that from now on I will always love her unconditionally, regardless of whether she fails or succeeds. I claimed my autonomy as adult Sarah, knowing that it is my responsibility to parent my inner child and keep her safe. This was the process of integration, of returning to wholeness on a deep soul level.

I’m sharing with you these intimate and personal revelations to demonstrate the power of healing. It is a process. It can take time. I have spent close to three years peeling back layers upon layers of conditioning, delving into intense and raw emotions. And now I finally feel that the puzzle pieces are coming together as a new chapter in my journey begins to unfold. Trust that everything happens in divine timing, according to your soul’s deeper plan.

Where in your relationships are you being called to reclaim your power? What old versions of you are now falling away and how can you make new choices aligned with your deeper sovereignty and truth?